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Hi there, its Shelly with the Authentic Man Program.
Today I’m gonna respond to a post by Flip called “Appreciation and the shadow”. So Flip was talking about trying to look good and not be messy, and then realizing that his shadow self actually is a little messy, maybe a little disorganized… but that’s the part of himself that he hides. So he’s asking, “What can I do as i approach to foster intimacy and expose each of our shadow selves?”
Well Flip, I don’t think you’re going to like my answer, but I usually recommend that if you notice a part of yourself that you’ve been actively suppressing, that you enjoy and explore that part of yourself. So actually PRACTICE being messy, actually go out there and be goofy and silly, try NOT to look good, and see if you can appreciate that; and then you’re going to attract other people who’re starting to become comfortable with their shadow selves, these parts of themselves that they’ve hidden away.
So thats what I think, I think you know, dance on the table, get wild and crazy, really come to terms and come to peace with your own shadow self and then you’ll have that kind of intimacy with others when they feel safe and comfortable to bring their shadow out.
So I hope that helps, and I’ll see you next time!
Thanks Flip!
From Bryan: This is a new experiment we’re trying, to have the women from our “Ask The Women of AMP” area of our members-only online forum create video responses to members’ posts. We’re posting them to the blog here for everyone’s education and enjoyment.
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Aww, I felt so snuggly while watching you give this answer. Thanks for this post.
Thanks Chris. It still feels kinda funny recording these, so I appreciate your feedback.
Shelly, I’m gonna do that! I’m gonna take on Flip’s challenge to be messy. I feel like a walking stiff lately. Thanks! 🙂
What a great idea, guys. Seeing the answer on video added a whole new level of understanding and experience in comparison to just reading the words. It felt amazing to see your face light up at various parts of your video. That really hammered the point home in ways that are — for me, at least — way more effective. Since I’m mostly afraid that I’m just gonna make a fool out of myself, I’m gonna start feeling what it’s like to just accept that and embody that part of me when interacting with women.
My only complaint about the video is how distracting it is to be hypnotized by those deep blue eyes, Shelly… Damn. 🙂
Flip
Hey Flip, Here at the Authentic Man Program, that’s what we’d call a “quality problem” And I feel VERY much appreciated reading your words 🙂 wow, hypnotized- really?! Hugs, Shelly