Ever meet a woman and get completely entranced by her appearance?

Okay so they're hot. What else do you notice?

Okay so they’re hot. What else do you notice?


To the point where you lose yourself in her beauty?

Man, I definitely know this. I’m entranced by her radiance, completely snowed by her beauty…

She may have done NOTHING to deserve that attention except inherit some good genetics and put on some makeup…
She could be totally emotionally closed, clueless, mean-spirited, and unconscious…devoid of any of the qualities I admire in a woman, yet if she’s got a “hot girl costume”, I’ll put her on a pedestal and treat her in my mind like she’s queen of the world…

What the hell?!

What can you feel about her, beyond the physical?

What can you feel about her, beyond the physical?

I’ve been snowed by appearance.

I think most guys do this to some degree or another, but for me, the cost of this is no longer acceptable.

Because if she IS someone who happens to completely gorgeous inside AND out…a woman I’d like to know better, or create something with, I’ve already screwed myself and any possibility of REAL connection…

When I get lost in her beauty, it’s a disservice to ME, and a disservice to HER.

Because from that moment, I stop treating her as a person, and more as an idealized object of my desire.

What can you feel about her, beyond the physical?

Not even necessarily as a sex object, but as an object by which I compare myself to…evaluate myself against in ugly ways…

Am I “good enough/cool enough” to “get her”?

Ugh. I feel disempowered, and NAUSEOUS.

Does this sound at all familiar to you?

Luckily, I now can watch my mind go down this path, and see it as a clear warning sign that I’m OFF-TARGET.

I’m committed to relating to women as PEOPLE, and my self-worth being INTERNALLY GENERATED, not based on how beautiful a woman I can attract…
Yet, left to its own devices, my mind will run this trip anyway!

Can you relate?

Well, I discovered a practice that really helped me, from a woman who I respect and whose values are aligned with AMP’s…a woman who loves men and is committed to their greatness…

MEET ALLANA PRATT

We’ve talked for hours on the phone, invited her up to be one of the “AMP Women” for our Weekend Intensives, and if we ever do a combination “No Woman Diet” / “No Man Diet”, she’s likely to be one of our co-leads for the women’s side…

Anyway, she’s written in her free eBook a little gem that I’ve been applying all weekend.

I was at a music festival…gorgeous women EVERYWHERE, adorned like goddesses, nymphs, creatures of incredible beauty…and it’s been so easy to get “snowed by the Hot Girl costume” and objectify them, without really knowing them or relating to them as Human Beings…

I want to share with you an excerpt from Allana’s free report that made a difference for me:

“Body, Mind Spirit is Backwards.”

It’s Spirit, Mind, Body and when your perspective changes to seeing her pussy as Sacred ground, the whole game changes. So, instead of [seeing] her body as meat first… connect with her body on a spiritual level… this glorious soul decided to choose this gorgeous body to represent her spirit… drink in the sacredness of her skin, notice how her capacity to love shines through her eyes, radiates and turns heads when she enters the room…

When you do make love one day to this woman, she’ll be totally into you because she trusts you, respects you and admires you BECAUSE YOU GET HER as a spirit, mind and body…Divine body, which means more sex, better sex, more often. She will literally come alive in the space you create for her…”

Ok, so the language is a bit flowery for guy-talk, but when I feel into what she’s saying, what I hear is this:

When I put attention on seeing BEYOND the “hot girl” uniform, and see the “Spirit”/”Being”/”Whatever You Want to Call It That Is Uniquely HER”, feel into Her unique essence that makes her who she is (instead of being “gorgeous unattainable girl I compare myself against”)…it changes how I relate to her.

Is she fiery and mischievous? Cool and compassionate? Dark and mysterious? What’s the flavor that is uniquely HER, rather than her just being “Hot”?

When I put this quality of attention on her, I can begin to SEE her for who she is (including appreciating the time and attention she’s put into adorning herself), without being snowed by her radiant appearance.

I’m no longer putting her on a pedestal, slobbering over her like every other “appearance-snowed” guy she meets—instead, I’m relating to her as a PERSON. From here, we can have a Real Connection, and this is a gift for Both of us.

THANKS TO ALLANA

I got a lot out of this…So, as a “thank you” for helping me out, I’m giving a little shout-out to Allana here — there are some other good nuggets and powerful exercises in her free report. While much of it you’ve probably heard if you’ve been turned on to David Deida’s work, it’s cool to hear it from a woman’s perspective. AND, if you’re ready to have a fierce advocate for your greatness in your corner, check out her new program, http://GetHerToSayYes.com.

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So be sure to check out Allana

And next time you find yourself entranced by the Feminine, getting snowed by appearance… try seeing her for the “Spirit” or “Essence” BEHIND the “hot girl costume”. Like the connoisseur of a fine wine, can you distinguish the aspects that make her uniquely HER?

Was this useful for you? Any other tools that help YOU see beyond the “hot girl” uniform? Leave a comment below.