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I found another excellent gem from the AMP archives and want you guys to check it out.
This one goes pretty deep and is all about rejection.
You know, that fear we have that if we walk up to the amazing woman at the coffee shop, she’ll totally annihilate us and leave us on the floor broken and bleeding out…
Or is that just me?
I suspect every guy has at least a little fear of rejection at some point in their lives. This clip gets to the bottom of rejection. What is it really?
That’s Decker, Garrison and Kendra inviting us to clear up exactly what rejection looks like to us.
What exactly is a rejection for you?
For me, it’s fear that she’ll see the real me and instantly know I am not good enough to even talk to.
I am terrified of getting that confirmation from a beautiful woman(even though it has never happened in real life.)
Great, so I see how my own flavor of rejection shows up, now what?
If you are getting clearer about how “rejection” shows up for you(and in your body) can you keep following that thread down.
What type of things occur as rejection to you?
When we find a few of these, we start to see our own “matrix,” the way in which we create rejection in our own mind.
Mine often looks like the “not good enough” and that i’ll freeze and not know what to say.
Decker uses the Myth of Narcissus to help us see into this phenomenon even deeper.
If you hear that myth and you think that narcissus just loved himself too much, you are actually not getting the deepest cut of this myth.
Narcissus did not love himself too much, he didn’t love himself at all. He loved his reflection, the thing outside himself that he was using to try to see himself better.
That is the opposite of self love. That is not love at all.
Here, Decker shares intimate details of his own myth of rejection.
It’s nice to hear Decker is a little human too.
Decker’s version sounds different from mine and I am betting yours is different and unique as well.
So if we each have a unique version of this myth of rejection, how the hell do we work with it?
Wow, ok, so I see that I am looking on the outside(to women) to supply me with the affirmation that I am good enough and I am terrified of not getting it.
What if it’s not true?
What if women have absolutely no authority over whether I am good enough or not?
Sounds like freedom to me.
I can imagine all my interactions that don’t come from the place of looking for narcissistic validation being much easier, and if they don’t go well, does it really matter all that much?
For a little extra practice, here is Decker guiding you through an awareness meditation that takes you right to the heart of your own narcissistic triggers:
As you bring this “matrix” into your awareness may not be totally effective right at first.
Who knows what the woman is doing when she pushes back against your curiosity but it may not have anything to do with you.
As you work with it, you’ll start to notice easier and easier interactions with women that used to scare the shit out of you.
I’d love to hear how this Rejection myth plays out for you guys in the commments.
In sharing these posts with you, I am really inspired to jump in and take it to the next level with you guys.
We’re re-launching a favorite AMP program in the next couple weeks…with fresh legs, and new insights for you.
Keep an eye on this blog and AMP emails so you can get in on this killer program before it fills up.