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Hey there, I’m Shelly with the Authentic Man Program, and I’m going to be answering a question today posted by T.P.– nice name, dude!

So T.P. asked “When you initially meet a new guy, what’s the first thing you assess?” Great question!

I had to think about this a little while, because its nothing tangible per se. I mean, I definitely look them over, but I think that even more than physical appearance what I notice is how I feel in my body, and what the energy around us and between us feels like.

So I’m not there checking out his shoes first thing… I’m feeling into, “Who is this guy being, what does he feel like, what does he seem like, do I initially feel trust, is there something not trustable about him?” and I can assess that actually really pretty quickly. Then the next thing I do is check out, “Oh well, how do I feel about this guy.”

So first it’s, “How do I feel in the presence of this man; how does the energy feel between us?” and that could be all sorts of different things. Like it could be tense, it could be anxious, I could feel a little nauseous in my stomach, or a little worried; I also might feel totally comfortable and safe, appreciated, held, heard. So there’s this whole host of experiences that I could have with various different guys, just kind of depending on who they’re being and what kind of energy they’re running, and what I’m noticing in that moment.

Thanks for asking your question T.P. I hope that helps!

From Bryan: This is a new experiment we’re trying, to have the women from our “Ask The Women of AMP” area of our members-only online forum create video responses to members’ posts. We’re posting them to the blog here for everyone’s education and enjoyment, as the women feel more comfortable and accustomed to responding via video, we expect the depth and the insight to increase as well.

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