I was pretty lousy at sports in grade school —
I was often the “weakest link” on my volleyball and tennis teams, and this made my life a living hell with my success-driven peers.
FAST FORWARD 12 YEARS LATER…
And my hand-eye coordination is no better now than it was then.
But when I first came to San Francisco, the only person I knew was Decker…
So to meet women, make friends, and get involved, I began scanning Craigslist, and one thing that struck me immediately was all the cool dancing styles and classes available.
These were “instant communities” I could connect with, and learn a cool new skill at the same time.
And it sure beat the bar scene for meeting interesting women, so I began taking classes —
And even though my feet were as uncoordinated as the rest of me, I took partner dancing classes like Salsa, Tango, even Blues dancing….(yes, there is a dance style called “Blues Dancing” — and it’s one of the easiest, sexiest dance styles to learn, in my 2-left-footed-experience)…
There’s something about partner dancing that evokes deep polarity and attraction —
traditionally requiring Presence of the man, and Trust & Surrender from the woman…
It’s like sex — bodies moving together — that creates an EMOTIONAL RIDE for the woman — without all the complications! I LOVE this dynamic….
But the one partner activity that I’d really been most inspired by ever since I saw it– and can create an equally compelling Emotional Ride with a woman– was Acroyoga.
I had learned the basics from a couple of classes back in SF, but because of the trust involved, it requires a commitment to practice regularly with whomever your partner is…
And while travelling through India, I was fortunate to find someone equally committed and inspired…!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zXiGMtagDrk
After seeing this beautiful Russian woman on the beach dancing “contact improv”, I suspected she might be interested in practicing with me.
She agreed tentatively for me to show her a few things, and after her first time “flying”, I asked her, “Good? You enjoyed this?”
“Not good”, she replied in her Russian-accented broken English… “GREAT. I LOVE this. Can we practice every day?”
We trained a couple of hours each day, learning together while following the “Flight Manual“… and within a week, we were doing little performances together like this on the beach.
Turns out she’s an amazing being, we get along like chai and chapati :), and we’re having an amazing time, traveling through many other parts of India together…
We’re still practicing, and we had a blast staying up til 3am choosing the music and putting together the video you see above!
And… I’m crystal-clear that this connection would never have happened if I had not been pursuing my personal interests..ones that I ENJOY, and that can create an emotional ride with women.
DEVELOP HOBBIES THAT DEEPEN THE EMOTIONAL CONNECTION WITH WOMEN
My point is this:
If you’re looking to meet more women and have more rewarding connections in 2010, consider investing in hobbies that, first and foremost…
1) YOU ENJOY, and
2) can create an “EMOTIONAL RIDE” with women.
So, as opposed to playing “World of Warcraft” online, watching sports, or reading at home…
This year, consider learning
* partner dancing
* contact improv
* acroyoga
* singing karaoke…
* playing music (DJing or learning a musical instrument can create an emotionally compelling experience for Lots of people at once…)
So, I want to hear from YOU.
Post your comments, as well as other ideas you have for hobbies that you enjoy, that bring value to your connection with women, and create an EMOTIONAL RIDE…!
Leave your ideas below!
Love from India,
Bryan
Cycling. Nothing like a good 30 or 40 mile sufferfest with someone special. It’s an opportunity to support one another, encourage one another, and ultimately celebrate success. All while getting great exercise, experiencing the outdoors, and perhaps sharing sights that never would have occurred elsewhere. A past g’friend and I cycled together and one early ride here in central Texas we rode side by side with a huge Whitetail buck until he decided to jump the fence and cross the road right in front of us. Although no longer dating, we still ride together and share that story with each other over and over.
Best…
Great video, great song!
I was thinking about taking salsa classes myself, because there are a lot of women. And the men are in minority, so women have no partner to dance… 🙂
This is amazing Bryan! The vid is beautiful and fun! While seeing this, I looked up Acroyoga in my hometown in the Netherlands, and guess what: this Sunday there’s an introduction class! ;0)
Have fun!
Kevin
Wow Bryan! I didn’t even know there was something called AcroYoga. Great video. I imagine the connection one creates … like a deep meditative connection when practicing/performing together. I’m inspired.
Thanks for sharing that video.
Gordon
What a great performance. Both cool and intense.
Yeah, I’ve just started taking singing lessons about two weeks ago. It was mostly because I have a rather weak and quiet voice, and I wanted to strengthen my voice… but it makes me feel in the moment and joyful. I certainly believe that it would make me more attractive to women. I think anything that puts your focus in the present moment and lifts your mood would be attractive to others.
Oh yes…partner dancing! It is the best way I’ve found to establish connections with a lot of high quality women. The dumb thing is, few single guys here actually take lessons! When I take classes, the participants are either single women or couples. I’ve also found that taking regular dance classes are great for keeping me out of my head.
I was listening to an interview of Tim Ferriss (author of “The Four Hour Work-Week” not long ago. In it he extolled the virtues of taking both martial arts and dance classes. He apparently took to both pretty well; he is a championship kick boxer, and a competitive tango dancer. Got me thinking that these two activities would be pretty suitable for developing masculine and feminine energies, and exploring the interplay between the two.
I love contact improv. I got into that a couple years ago, and I felt the deepest connection I’ve ever had with a woman in my life while doing that with her. Here’s my favorite video of contact:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fEODceIgCos
(the first 30 seconds rocks, the rest is boring)
Keep up that good work, dude.
Jason
Another hobby in my experience that creates an emotional ride for women is motorcycling. Once a woman has her first ride with a man she cannot let go anymore. she is hooked ands wants more and more and more.
Awesome video, Bryan!
Didn’t know you could dance 😉 Love the video! Very sexy!
Dear Bryan i’ve watched the video and read what you said..
you really opened my eyes to one thing.. how love is the best feeling we will ever feel..
and thanks for sharing such great and wonderful information..
Thanks again and wish you a great time,keep it up..
Regards from UAE,Dubai..
Nizo
Great post, Bryan. I definitely agree. I’ve done salsa, DJing, and just finished my yoga teacher training. All three definitely have provided its benefits in terms of meeting and attracting women. Acroyoga and partner dancing really creates that visceral feeling of trust/surrender for the woman and gives me the chance to practice leading. And the bonus is that if you’re not used to “being in control”, it’s easy b/c with salsa and yoga, the lead/surrender is built-in, you’re supposed to take the lead!
The distinction is true that you must do it b/c you also ENJOY it, not b/c you want to meet women. I’ve seen so many guys in my salsa or yoga classes and it’s totally obvious that they’re there just to increase their chances of meeting hot women, not for the activity itself.
Cheers,
Jeffrey
Dude…
Bryan…
You have some SERIOUS endurance in your legs.
Nice.
-Shiraz
I totally agree with you on partners dancing; “It’s like sex — bodies moving together — that creates an EMOTIONAL RIDE for the woman – without all the complications! I LOVE this dynamic…” You couldn’t have said it better. Right now I have decided to get back into salsa dancing.
Women need orgasms. Give them the best you cab. Take a course. Could u spend time & money on anything better. Do it and they will love you as long as you keep doing it. Who wouldn’t – u would. Do it everyday. Peace