I first met Matt Morava in crushing defeat after my ex fiancé unexpectedly had a change of heart and, frankly, dumped me.
I was pretty much devastated, and Matt reached out to me to share a blog he wrote as he was going through painful divorce.
Reading his words helped me sort through a lot of what I was dealing with, and helped me feel a little less alone.
Since then we have cultivated a great friendship and a few weeks ago, I caught up with him on the DU campus for a recording. More on Matt here…
This was a really fun deep dive into the ‘worlds’ of the generations.
There are definite challenges to be a Generation Y kid – high speed internet, Facebook, porn on a scale we’ve never seen before.
Navigating women with the mixed messages from the post-‘PUA’ boom can be even trickier.
We’re even starting to see somewhat mainstream guys like Tim Ferriss do public blog posts and ‘challenges’ for quitting porn.
Our brains are wired for a completely different world, we ain’t in kansas anymore.
Here’s a run-down of what we cover in this interview:
- Your ‘outboard brain’ – [5:45]
- Developing your thinking vs rote memorisation [6:55]
- Job security – and old idea [8:10].
- How does Gen X relate to Gen Y? [15:50]
- Message to Gen Y about girls/relationships [16:21]
- How do you compete/relate with women? – 21:25
- The ‘war on masculinity’ in schools – 23:05
- More guys on anti-depressants, anti ADD, Anti Anxiety drugs – [23:25]
- Why are guys on viagra at 18? [24:00]
- The ‘Entertained’ Generation [30:25]
- Your first naked woman [32:15]
- 3x Core Components of a Relationship [Commitment, Passion, Friendship] [33:40]
- Robert Sternberg’s theory of love
- You’re raised watching the porn of the generation before you [34:10]
- Erotic Expectations without experience in vulnerability and connection [34:50]
- Entire Relationships Online [35:20]
- When sex goes away [37:05]
- This Generation’s missing component is ‘Commitment’ [37:45]
- Eyes-Open Sex and the Boomer/GenY differences [38:14]
- The new ‘edge’ for Gen Y (can you feel connected in sex?) [39:25]
- Sasha Gray – A face of feminine sexual power [40:15]
- Gaining Power through owning your own – not taking others away – and breaking the ‘victim/villain/saviour’ triangle. [43:45]
- The Enlightenment of the Hunter [47:20]
- The Corporate Cocoon and Shallow Breathing [48:38]
One more thing: Owning your sexual power as a man (without taking away her power) is such a powerful capacity to have, that I wanted to mention [AUTHENTIC SEXUAL POWER]– in case you haven’t checked that one out yet.
It’s probably one of the deepest programs we’ve ever done on owning your power as a man, healing shame and creating turn on in women.
If you really want ‘practical’ exercises and steps at owning your power, this is a game-changer
Here’s the link again: [AUTHENTIC SEXUAL POWER]
Nice overview. As a “pre-boomer” (born in ’41) it was enlightening to see the differences that have emerged in the later generations.
I agree that the lack of commitment is a major stumbling block for deepening an otherwise OK (or even really good) relationship. Still learning on that point and enjoying the fruits of commitment in my 4th marriage. Slow learner!
Casey did a great job with the interview and post… I wish I’d been a little bit more clear about how this coming generation of men — Millennials and Gen Z — raised by engaged parents, in classrooms with tons of “girl power” initiatives, then they go off to college, their alma matter, and then enter the halls of the modern multinationals only to find their “mothers” waiting there for them.
Awesome dialogue guys! As a gen-Y, I really enjoyed getting a larger perspective on the themes and archetypal traits of my generation, especially in relation to the X-ers and Boomers. And it was great to hear you talk about the need to take what is being incubated in communities like Boulder and spread it around the rest of the world as much as possible. I grew up mostly in the Bay Area, and I now find myself in a small town in Arkansas, so I have been feeling acutely lately that need to spread around the awareness.